By Stephen R. Covey
As human beings, we have four unique endowments: self-awareness,
conscience, independent will, and creative imagination that not only
separate us from the animal world, but also help us to distinguish
between reality and illusion, to transform the clock into a compass,
and
to align our lives with the extrinsic realities that govern quality of
life. Self-awareness enables us to examine our paradigms, to look at our
glasses as well as through them, to think about our thoughts, to become
aware of the psychic programs that are in us, and to enlarge the
separation between stimulus and response.
Self-aware, we can take responsibility for reprogramming or
rescripting ourselves out of the stimulus-response mode. Many movements
in psychology, education, and training are focused on an enlarged
self-consciousness. Most popular self-help literature also focuses upon
this capacity. Self-awareness, however, is only one of our unique
endowments. Conscience puts us in touch with something within us even
deeper than our thoughts and something outside us more reliable than our
values. It connects us with the wisdom of the ages and the wisdom of
the heart.
Out Internal Guidance System
It’s an internal guidance system that allows us to sense when we act or
even contemplate acting in a way that’s contrary to our deepest values
and “true north” principles. Conscience is universal. By helping
companies and individuals develop mission statements, I have learned
that what is most personal is most general. No matter what people’s
religions, cultures, or backgrounds are, their mission statements all
deal with the same basic human needs to live (physical and financial),
to love (social), to learn (educational), and to leave a legacy
(spiritual).
Independent will is our capacity to act, the power to transcend our
paradigms, to swim upstream, to re-write our scripts, to act based on
principles rather than reacting based on emotions, moods, or
circumstances. While environmental or genetic influences may be very
powerful, they do not control us. We’re not victims. We’re not the
product of our past. We are the product of our choices. We are
“response-able,” meaning we are able to choose our response.
This Power to Choose is a Reflection of our Independent Will
Creative imagination empowers us to create beyond our present reality.
It enables us to write personal mission statements, set goals, plan
meetings, or visualize ourselves living our mission statements even in
the most challenging circumstances. We can imagine any scenario we want
for the future. If our imagination has to go through the straightjacket
of our memory, what is imagination for? Memory is limited. It’s finite;
it deals with the past. Imagination is infinite; it deals with the
present and the future, with potentiality, with vision and mission and
goals with anything that is not now but can be.
The man-on-the-street approach to success is to work harder, to give
it the “old college try.” But unless willpower is matched with creative
imagination, these efforts will be weak and ineffective.
Nurturing Our Unique Gifts
Enhancing these endowments requires us to nurture and exercise them
continuously. Sharpening the saw once a week or once a month just isn’t
enough. It’s too superficial. It’s like a meal. Yesterday’s meal will
not satisfy today’s hunger. Last Sunday’s big meal won’t prepare me for
this Thursday’s ethical challenge. I will be much better prepared if I
meditate every morning and visualize myself dealing with that challenge
with authenticity, openness, honesty, and with as much wisdom as I can
bring to bear on it.
Here are four ways to nurture your unique endowments:
1. Nurture self-awareness by keeping a personal journal.
Keeping a personal journal � a daily in-depth analysis and evaluation of
your experiences � is a high-leverage activity that increases
self-awareness and enhances all the endowments and the synergy among
them.
2. Educate your conscience by learning, listening, and responding.
Most of us work and live in environments that are rather hostile to the
development of conscience. To hear the conscience clearly often requires
us to be reflective or meditative, a condition we rarely choose or
find. We’re inundated by activity, noise, conditioning, media messages,
and flawed paradigms that dull our sensitivity to that quiet inner voice
that would teach us of “true north” principles and our own degree of
congruency with them.
I’ve heard executives say that they can’t win this battle of
conscience because expediencies require lies, cover-ups, deceit, or game
playing. “That’s just part of the job,” they say. I disagree. I think
such rationalization undermines trust within their cultures. If you have
back-room manipulation and bad mouthing, you will have a low-trust
culture. A life of total integrity is the only one worth striving for.
Granted, it’s a struggle. Some trusted advisors, PR agents, accountants,
and legal counselors might say, “This will be political suicide,” or
“This will be bad for our image, and so let’s cover up or lie.” You have
to look at each case on its own merit. No case is black and white.
It takes real judgment to know what you should do. You may feel that
you operate “between a rock and a hard place.” Still, with a
well-educated conscience or internal compass, you will rarely, if ever,
be in a situation where you only have one bad option. You will always
have choices. If you wisely exercise your unique endowments, some moral
option will be open to you. So much depends on how well you educate your
conscience, your internal compass. When my kids were in athletics, they
paid the price to get their bodies coordinated with their minds. You’ve
got to do the same with your own conscience regularly.
The more internal uncertainty you feel, the larger the grey areas
will be. You will always have some grey areas, particularly at the
extremity of your education and experience. And to grow, you need to go
to that xtremity and learn to make those choices based on what you
honestly believe to be the right thing to do.
3. Nurture independent will by making and keeping promises.
One of the best ways to strengthen our independent will is to make and
keep promises. Each time we do, we make deposits in our personal
integrity account the amount of trust we have in ourselves, in our
ability to walk our talk. To build personal integrity, start by making
and keeping small promises. Take it a step and a day at a time.
4. Develop creative imagination through visualization.
Visualization, a high-leverage mental exercise used by world-class
athletes and performers, may also be used to improve your quality of
life. For example, you might visualize yourself in some circumstance
that would normally create discomfort or pain. In your mind’s eye,
instead of seeing yourself react as you normally do, see yourself acting
on the basis of the principles and values in your mission statement.
The best way to predict your future is to create it.
Roots Yield Fruits
With the humility that comes from being principle-centered, we can
better learn from the past, have hope for the future, and act with
confidence, not arrogance, in the present. Arrogance is the lack of
self-awareness; blindness; an illusion; a false form of self-confidence;
and a false sense that we’re somehow above the laws of life. Real
confidence is anchored in a quiet assurance that if we act based on
principles, we will produce quality-of-life results.
It’s confidence born sp; of character and competence. Our security is
not based on our possessions, positions, credentials, or on comparisons
with others; rather, it flows from our own integrity to “true north”
principles. I confess that I struggle with total integrity and do not
always “walk my talk.” I find that it’s easier to talk and teach than to
practice what I preach. I’ve come to realize that I must commit to
having total integrity to be integrated around a set of correct
principles.
I’ve observed that if people never get centered on principles at some
time in their lives, they will take the expedient political-social path
to success and let their ethics be defined by the situation. They will
say, “business is business,” meaning they play the game by their own
rules. They may even rationalize major transgressions in the name of
business, in spite of having a lofty mission statement.
Only by centering on “timeless” principles and then living by them
can we enjoy sustained moral, physical, social, and financial wellness.
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